This article at Single Dad Laughing is really, really amazing. The desire to appear perfect all the time is something that I struggle with all of the time. I've come to understand that all it does is make life harder for you & alienates you from other people, because you can't be your wonderful, imperfect self with them. I've been so worried about appearing perfect at times that it paralyzes me, & I can't tell even the people I love the most what's wrong or ask for help, because I'm afraid of looking weak & exposing my flaws. It's no way to live!
It's so much easier to own up to your weaknesses & address them, which allows you to begin to let them go. & it really is easier...keeping your worries & fears pent up all the time is exhausting! The stress of it all takes a toll on you emotionally & physically. & really, no one expects you to be perfect, & you're not fooling anyone when you try to seem that way! Just let go & you will learn how much happier you can be when you are true to yourself.